I was watching Simon Cowell on Regis and Kelly. He was talking about Ryan Seacrest and he made a comment about how none of us really want to see our friends do well. He said that we really don't want our friends to do better than us. In Simon's usual way I think he's got the nerve to be honest about this. If we really want to do a little better than our friends, it stand to reason that they all want to do a little better than us.
When it comes to relationships I think it's better not to trust your love life with your friends. It's up to you to meet and succeed with the man of your dreams. Sometimes it's better if none of your friends meet him until you know you've got a solid thing going on. It's amazing what little innocent things your friends might do to screw things up for you. I'm not saying they're bad people. I'm saying subconsciously they might rather have all this happiness for themselves.
Chances are slim that anyone is going to introduce you to an awesome guy unless they don't want him for themselves. If your girlfriends are married do they really want you to do better than they did? I think not.
If you think any of your friends have bad mouthed you to a guy behind your back, ask the guy. You have a right to defend yourself. If these so called friends are telling lies about you, you have a right to know. Sometimes you just find your friends being flirtatious or overly friendly with your new guy, then accuse you of being too sensitive or jealous. Don't ignore the signs of betrayal when it comes to friends or men.
If traveling in a pack hasn't worked for you or you suspect your friends are sabotaging your love live, it's time to fly solo for awhile. It's okay to keep your love life secret. Your best friend doesn't have to know everything and everyone. She can be on a need to know basis. Once you have a solid relationship with the guy, your friends can't do as much damage. It's also easier for a guy to approach you if you're on your own.
Women can be mean and selfish. Women can also be a lot of fun and a great support system.
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